As my homeroom students re-entered my room for our 6th period social studies class, T, a student, walked by and flashed me a copy of the demerit she just received from my teammate. It explained that T was caught cheating on her math test. I allowed her to put her things down before calling her back into the hallway to discuss this indescretion.
After explaining to her that this was very serious and something she could not continue, T looked up at me and immediately began sobbing. The tears rolled down her face and her body shook as she clung to my midsection. At that point, all I could do was hug her. It was one of those cries that I remember having as a child (and adult) where you feel utterly helpless and just want someone to care.
The sobbing lasted only a couple of minutes. T looked back up at me and, with tears still falling, explained to me that the teachers knew it wasn’t possible for her to remember all the things she needs to know for her tests. She told me that she “was slow and got it from (her) mama”, a line she repeated several times.
As her teacher, I promised her that I would help her find some really good ways to study for those tests. I reminded her about the tutoring her mother signed her up for the day before. I reassured her that I knew she could do this 5th grade thing on her own (without the cheating) and made sure that she understood that when she did really do it, she would feel amazing.
Even after the pep talk, I’m still a little bit heartbroken for her and her image of herself. Hopefully we can repair that a little bit by the end of this year.
Tags: school, self-image, study habits, teaching
